Live with Pride
It was a day of pride for the LGBT community in Mumbai on 31st January, 2015. The annual pride parade was one extravagant affair. A parade for
the equal rights, a parade for acceptance, a parade where love meant love and nothing
was gender biased.
I met one such person who has been witnessing that love
needs no gender to be defined. Parenthood needs no gender to set an example of
a good parental care.
Keya an independent woman has been brought by two mothers. I asked her a few questions about how it is
and how much different is it from a regular heterosexual family.
How was it with two
mothers bringing you up?
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| Keya |
So do you feel that
parental touch with her (her mom’s gf)?
Ya ya completely & she is more than just a friend. Like
there are some things which I can’t tell my mother but I can easily talk to her
about it.
So you are more
comfortable in sharing things with her?
No, like there are some topics like sex which I cannot talk
to my mother but I can talk to her about it.
And in a society like
ours does everybody around you know about it that you are with two mothers?
Ya people know .My
mother is an independent woman and they (people) might be talking about it but
they never cared, we never cared. So recently, say from the past two to three
years I have started telling about it & the thing is I came out when I was
13 to them that I’m gay. That time people from my community questioned and I
faced some problems “maybe because your parents are gay so you became gay or
maybe I didn’t have any male part in my family so I turned into one”. I became
gay but my sister is straight (her twin sister) and the heterosexual parental
thing is going on from generations and it can never come into question.
And when I used to be a parties, I would to tell my mother,
Not to tell anyone that I’m her daughter but from the past two or three years I
have been telling people about it. I had been to America for some work and
there also I said that I have two mothers (with a perfect proud daughter
expression
).
).
U.S.A is a free
country and in India opening up is a big thing and extending this do you face
any such problems at work?
I have just changed my office so I’m not yet out. Even in my
old office I wasn’t out and very few of my friends know about it
Difficult for you
when you cannot open up to anybody?
Ya, it’s very difficult for me as well as my parents because
everyone knows that I have just one mother and no father or I don’t want to get
married that they know.
It was one amazing experience. Not only people from the LGBT
community were there but straight people were also present and were walking
along for equality with the community that deserves to be accepted.
Homophobia isn’t going to take us anywhere. Support the LGBT
community. Help us so that section 377 of the Indian Penal Code can be quashed.
Another gay couple got married on the day of pride. A really
heart-warming thing to catch up on and hard to see such love even between a
heterosexual couples. Moreover I interviewed Keya just so that I can show that
love needs no gender identification. She is very down to earth, independent and
a humble woman.
It becomes difficult for a person to hide who they are, what
they are. We should educate our society not to discriminate or look those down
instead just welcome them with open hearts. By hiding their identity many go
under a lot of mental pressure. It’s basically harming them indirectly.
We should all open up so that it becomes easy for LGBT
community to open up, to make them feel that they are one amongst us and they
are no different. We are all human, we all breathe, and we are all born the
same way then why discriminate?
#queerazaadimarch2015 #equality #supportforlgbt
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